How to find a decent man online

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These tips will boost your chances. 12 basic rules to find love. If Valentine's Day has you thinking about finding love, the holiday could be a good motivation to start.

 

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These tips will boost your chances. Just because the whole world seems to obsess about romance during one day in the middle of February, doesn't mean you have to. For happy singles, it's a good excuse to eat chocolate. But if Valentine's Day has you thinking about finding love, the holiday could be a good motivation to start. Our experts offered these 12 tips to boost your chances: 1. The ‘You’ll find love when you’re not looking’ approach may be wrong. That’s like saying, “You’ll find a job when you’re least looking for it,” said Pepper Schwartz, a relationship expert and sociology professor at the University of Washington. It’s possible, but rarely happens. “For the most part, people who wait for a job are unemployed,” she added. “For me, it’s just an excuse for being scared to go and put the effort in. Yes, it happens, but no, it’s not a good strategy.” Schwartz does agree with the underlying sentiment of that saying: Don’t be desperate. Put the effort in to find someone, but don’t act like any breathing body will do. As they reveal how they met, these couples will renew your faith in love. 2. Go where people like the same things you like. You can skip singles events if you don’t like them, but you have to go where you can meet people, Schwartz advised. Join social groups or meet-ups, be a worker bee in a cause you believe in, get involved in political parties. At the very least, you’re doing something you like and at the very best, you'll meet somebody like-minded. Bite the bullet and try online dating for a big pool of potential candidates, Schwartz added. If you’re already online, try a different dating site. 3. Look up from your phone. Good men and good women are everywhere — if you’re looking, noted Bela Gandhi, a TODAY contributor and founder of the Smart Dating Academy in Chicago. She’s amazed people often complain they don’t meet anyone, but then go out and keep their heads down the entire time, staring at their devices. Wherever you are, be present and look around the room to see who is looking at you. Make three seconds of eye contact with the cute stranger and smile — that’s an invitation for him to come over and talk to you, she advised. 4. Don’t seek romance, seek partnership. Romance is for dates, and it’s fun to have on occasion in your marriage, but it’s partnership that will get you through the rough times, said Tina B. Tessina, a California psychotherapist also known as Dr. Romance" and author of “How to be Happy Partners: Working it out Together.” “Don’t look for someone who sweeps you off your feet. That indicates a control freak, and you won’t like what happens later,” she advised. “Look for someone who likes give-and-take, who seeks your opinion and considers it, who cares about what you want, too.” 5. Happy people attract people. Maybe the biggest issue in not being able to find love is that you’re not feeling good about yourself. Like yourself and like your life — really work on that, Schwartz advised. You have to be the person that you’d want to meet. “If you’re not a happy, positive, self-confident person, you cut your chances of being in the right space for the right kind of person,” she said. Go to a therapist to see why you’re depressed, get a trainer if you haven’t been exercising, and visit a nutritionist to begin eating right. If you’re shy, realize you could be less shy. “The idea is that you have to train for everything, and you have to train for love as well,” Schwartz said. “You can work on yourself.

How to find a decent man online